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Decisions, decisions, decisions

20/6/2016

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We're building just behind (south) of our residence in South Street, Tawa. The same company and the same builder is also building across the little valley north of where we are in Matai Street - photo is taken from our driveway. Our build is a little ahead of the others and we hope to occupy our new home by the end of August.

So what's the point and where's the wisdom?

​Life is full of decisions! Building a house is an exercise that invites a myriad of decisions constrained by budget, time pressures, the need for good communication and the ability to relate to many different people. Eighteen months on from our first approach to a survey company about subdividing our section we are nearly there, relatively intact, I think!

A property subdivision and house build is a picture of one's life, albeit in a very focussed way. Life is full of decisions. And our decisions are constrained by a number of factors including: life experience, ability to communicate and listen, money, time pressure, values and spirituality. Knowingly or unknowingly we all have limited capacity to decide. We never decide with complete and totally wise foresight. We may come close. I would suggest that we allow ourselves to come closer by talking about it with trusted others who can add to our pool of wisdom when deciding. When we are humble enough to take on board the wisdom of others in making our decisions we will find that we make better decisions. We will discern the way forward more clearly and we will benefit from the fruit of our wise endeavour.

I seek to be alongside and supportive of those in the valley of decision.  Having lived a while and made some less than good decisions, I am the wiser and the humbler. I'd love to journey with you for a while as you decide.

Shalom, Terry

P.S. 
John 8:15-17 - New International Version of the Bible
15 You judge by human standards; I pass judgment on no one. 16 But if I do judge, my decisions are true, because I am not alone. I stand with the Father, who sent me. 17 In your own Law it is written that the testimony of two witnesses is true.

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iCare Resources Website Upgraded Today

14/4/2016

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We've had a good look at the content of the iCare website and have chosen to refresh the website design and to simplify the content. We hope you like what you view here.  

Further improvements planned include new imagery and increased use of this News (Blog) facility to tell you and the www what we're up to. We'll comment more on Christian resources that we have found helpful and why; we'll reflect on current issues spiritual and secular; and we'll in all of this be seeking to invite you to comment and respond.

One of the advantages of the Weebly content management system we use is that it is multi-device compatible - technically, 'responsive' - which means that content will be re-formatted to fit your device: desktop, mobile or in between. No more need to enlarge, reduce or do contortions to see content!




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Northland-Wilton Interim Parish Ministry

13/4/2016

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PictureSt Anne's Parish Church, Northland
Last Sunday (10 April) I completed a six month assignment as interim priest in the Northland-Wilton Parish, Wellington. This appointment followed the move of Canon Deborah Broome to minister in Napier.

The focus of this ministry has been to lead Sunday and other occasional worship services and to offer pastoral care for the Parish, with home visiting a priority. Two baptisms and one funeral were completed. Both Christmas, Holy Week and Easter services were highlights of this ministry time. The pre-Christmas community carol service (led jointly with the Wilton Catholics) drew 200 to attend, despite the bad weather. During Lent two study groups convened jointly with the Wadestown Anglicans. The study theme, 'Generous Hospitality' offered plenty of challenges to those of us involved.

The Northland-Wilton Anglicans humbly proclaim they are, 'The Church at the Heart of Our Community.' They are not far wrong. While at the centre of St Anne's life together is the worship of the God whom we know through Jesus Christ our Saviour, the people work hard to be caring and supportive of the wider Northland-Wilton community. The Free Food Friday barbeque offered outside St Anne's fortnightly is well appreciated and it usually takes less than an hour to get rid of the 40+ sausages available. The monthly Thursday munch draws a number of elderly and shut in people. Of particular interest is the Messy Church offered monthly on a Sunday afternoon. This offers a very creative time for children and families to be together while reflect on life and faith issues inter-generationally. The beautifully modernised St Anne's hall is well used for regular and occasional community gatherings.

While I have completed interim ministry assignments previously, notably in Island Bay and Levin Parishes, the intentional and transitional nature of such ministry has been reinforced during this time. Reflecting on this ministry I have written on this theme in a paper entitled, 'Interim Ministry Priesthood'. This is currently being reviewed. A link to it may appear soon in this News Blog.

This ministry has concluded with the appointment of the Reverend Paul McIntosh of Karori being instituted as permanent priest in charge on tomorrow - Fri 15 April.

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Nga mihi ki a koe e hoa,
Terry

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August 18th, 2015

17/8/2015

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PictureJOYCE MILDRED ALVE
Mum died a week ago today in the rest home hospital room she had lived in for nearly two years. It was on my vigil watch at 2:45am that she drew her last breath, peacefully. What a blessed moment as I, her eldest child, was able to hold her hand as she moved from her frail, earthly body into a place  of peaceful rest. After nearly 86 years of joy and sorrow; being loved and loving; caring for children and being cared for by them; cooking and cleaning; being a friend and finding friendship; marrying and burying a husband; mum has returned to her Creator.
One of the more inspirational books I gave read is Mitch Albom's, 'Tuesdays with Morrie.' An inspirational story of conversations between a professor with a terminal illness and a former student who recorded their dialogue. One of Albom's quips is, 'But behind all your stories is always your mother's story, because hers is where yours begins.'
Indeed mum's story is profoundly interwoven with mine. Her father died in a trucking accident when she was 3 and her mother died soon after her marriage and a few months before I was born, when she was 21. As a 22 year old I lost my wife Maureen to cancer less than 2 years after we married. Mum grew up with a brother who suffered the ravages of brain damage at birth. Uncle Will lived with us all the years I was at home, teaching me to be caring of the differently abled as mum was all her life, until Uncle Will's death in 1998.
Mum's kindness and tenderness was formed in the furnace of affliction. Her enjoyment from making people happy, especially through her cooking, was profound. Her respect for the individuality of all 4 of her children was modelled on her experience of relationship with her very able mother and her older siblings, Joan and Will.
Another legacy of mum's dying is that we her children are now devoid of parental presence and care. We have become the senior family members - kaumatua (elders) or koroua and kuia (grandparents) in Maori. Our new roles have been modelled well by our parents and grandparents. Our challenge as mum's children  is to age and die well in our senior years. May we rise to the challenge to stand tall as elders in our family - mau tangata.

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Why I Changed My Mind On Homosexuality

10/1/2015

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A Sermon by Pastor Danny Cortez
New Heart Community Church, La Mirada, CA
This message was given on February 9, 2014.
My response to the Southern Baptist Convention: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/danny-c...

I watched this video last night and found it most helpful in informing my search for understanding about an appropriate Christian response to this subject. Danny's thoughtful, sincere and informative message about his journey and changing understandings is well worth viewing.

Terry
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Christian Mindfulness Course and Resources

4/8/2014

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Welcome to Christian Mindfulness
In a world filled with busyness, stress and pressure the benefits of prayer, meditation and mindfulness are now accepted as scientifically proven and literally re-wire the brain to function with greater peace, self-awareness and calm. A Christian Perspective on mindfulness explores how biblical theology, faith and practice relate to these ancient practices.

http://www.christianmindfulness.co.uk/
Prayer, Meditation and Mindfulness is available as a Six Week Online Course.  An additional FREE Introductory Online Session is available now.

The Free Session includes visuals, biblical content, guided self awareness and God awareness meditations, informative video clips, Questions for Reflection and a suggested programme for Daily Prayer, Meditation and Mindfulness. Length Of Free Session - Approximately 45 minutes.

I have accessed and experienced the 45 min. FREE ONLINE SESSION. On the basis if this I am convinced that the full course will provide the outcomes expressed below and expanded in the webpage referenced below:
  • Exploration of self-awareness and God-awareness from a Christian and biblical Perspective
  • Proven tools to help with resilience, managing stress, low mood, anxiety, depression
  • Tools that enable healthier approaches to handling difficult thoughts and feelings
Prayer, Meditation & Mindfulness Course
Free Online Session
It is my intention to buy and complete this course, and to report further here - Terry.
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Dr Alexander Shaia Returns to Wellington

22/6/2014

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Friday Evening June 27, 7.30pm at the Conference Room, St Andrew's on the Terrace - The Fourfold Journey of All in Christ - Cost $10.00

Saturday June 28, 10.00am - 4.00pm, St Theresa's Parish Hall, Plimmerton (Parking in James St) - Four Critical Questions and Practices for the Journey

A Professional Development Day for Spiritual Directors (and others in related ministry) - BYO Lunch, AM & PM tea provided - Cost $30.00     



Enquiries to Andrew Pritchard:  alp_resources@paradise.net.nz   (04)9046764

Alexander in wellington - More Info

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Personality Type Indicators

21/5/2014

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The Myers-Briggs Personality Type Indicator and the Enneagram are two well-established resources and tools for individuals and professionals to use when assessing and explaining personality issues. These two resources have been added to our mentoring page so you can both learn more about your personality type and to discover it if you have not done so already.
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Myers-Briggs Personality Type Indicator

Enneagram Institute
Enneagram Institute
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We Accept Your Prayer Requests

29/9/2013

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from the Bridge to Nowhere, NZ
iCare Resources are committed to praying for people, groups and events they involve with. We invite you to visit our Prayer Request page to learn more. You may lodge your prayer request with us there. We also invite you to feedback after prayer.

You'll also find an inspirational video there based on a key scripture passage about prayer - Philippians 4:6-7.

We Look forward to praying with you.

Philippians 4 (NIVUK) - Final exhortations
6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

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Listening Churches and Individuals are Generous

28/9/2013

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A message shared during worship at All Saints, Haitaitai, Wellington
at 9am & 10:30am on Sunday 9 September, 2013

Scripture Readings
1 Timothy 6:6-19; Luke 16:19-31

Two weeks ago I spoke about the Seeking Church. We had noted in the Gospel of the day that Jesus had been meeting and eating with some undesirables and winning them over. However his friends and his critics were noticing that this was not the kind of thing a Rabbi should do. The Gospel however noted twice that there is joy in heaven over one sinner who repents. God seems to think differently from some upholders of custom. 

Last week, had I been with you, I would have spoken about the Faithful Church. The Church and Christian who refuses to compromise like the unfaithful steward will be powerful and effective. Uncompromising integrity will be the hallmark of the Faithful Church.

Today after reading the Gospel about Lazarus and the rich man, we note that the Listening Church will get it and be caring, kind, generous and loving - a body of individuals who make a powerful difference because they are prompted by the Spirit to be a healing presence.

So the Listening Church is a Generous Church.

It attends to need wherever it is found.

It listens to the Spirit of God.

It listens to itself and notices the movements of the Spirit.

It is therefore responsive in generous and life-giving ways.

Last weekend I was part of the leadership team during a 4 Day SGM Retreat at the Island Bay, Our Lady's Home of Compassion. Now I have been involved in many live-in Retreats over the years. However, this one stood out for me for the way in which the 17 of us involved experienced warmth and compassion oozing, as it were, out of the walls of our rooms. While there I learned that this place had been a hospital in times past and that it is home to a community of Catholic Sisters - the Sisters of Compassion founded by the French Mother Aubert who is being considered for canonisation currently! Without reservation I can assert that our experience, it wasn't just mine, attests to the Spirit's present and compassion in a very deep way. The place and its people exhibited extraordinary generosity.

Contrast this with our Gospel passage today.

Lazarus is a very poor beggar who for a while before he died dwelt at the gate of a very rich man.

He found sustenance by eating out of the rich man's rubbish bin.

Not only that, his poor diet meant he had weeping sores.

The rich man was content for the dogs at the gate to lick Lazarus's sores.

The rich man in the story was so self-absorbed and neglectful of following the law and the prohets that he ignored the poor beggar's plight.

His faith was devoid of compassion for Lazarus when he had an opportunity to relieve his intense suffering.

Of course their roles were reversed in the after-life, however I don't think this story is principally about the Christian theology of heaven and hell.

Rather it reminds us that God's call is to act with caring and generosity in the present. If we are in a position to be caring and generous of another (or the creation) our Christian responsibility is to just do it!

The Evangelical church can loose sight sometimes of this challenge. In its focus on justification by faith and God's free gift of eternal life, it can be neglectful, as the rich man was, of offering generous compassion. Let us remember that Paul in Ephesians 2:8-10 writes, "8 For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith – and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – 9 not by works, so that no one can boast. 10 For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do." Let's hold the tension, perhaps better than sometimes we do. Yes we are saved by faith; however we are called by God therefore to do good works!

v.18 of the Epistle (1Tim. 6) reads, "Instruct them to do as many good deeds as they can and to help everyone. remind the rich to be generous and share what they have."

So the question for us today is, "Who will we share with and be generous to today?"

I want to show you a video that depicts 5 scenarios that model everyday ways we might live the Scriptures when they invite us to be sharing, kind and generous...
The video is a primer that helps us to enter practically into generosity in everyday ways. We can readily identify, most of us, with these scenarios and the challenges they present. The challenge is to make it a daily habit to live like this. And institutionally too, in a spirit of generosity as we listen to the Spirit.

May I close with my favourite Scripture that seems to me to say it all in nutshell, Ephesians 4:32 (NIVUK), "Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you."


Love and Peace,
Terry Alve
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