iCare Mentoring

Support & Companioning

Terminology is important. The older terms - 'ministry supervision' and 'spiritual direction' - are losing their adequacy in defining what we seek to do as spiritual mentors. These terms suggest hierarchy, power, control and other unhelpful connotations. We prefer the terms 'ministry support' and 'spiritual companioning' as descriptive of what we offer those who are seeking to find a spiritual mentor. These terms speak better of the mutuality, collaboration and respectfulness that good modern mentoring strives for.

iCare offers:These disciplines are offered by qualified mentors who attend ongoing retreats and training events themselves. 
Sometimes we are engaged to offer both support and companioning to the same person. As indicated in the right side columns, it is important to be clear what we are seeking achieve in any session together.
Helping Relationships Defined by
Relational Need
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We are available to mentor via Skype
Skype Name: terry.alve
I find his little diagram (left) helpful as it helps to keep us focused on what the objectives of working with another person are. 

The issue of keeping boundaries is important when working with others as a professional counsellor,  spiritual director,  supervisor,  marriage or relationship counsellor.
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Sometimes needs will dictate that we go over these boundaries a little, but let us be conscious of what we are doing and check that it's okay. Often referral to another person qualified to assist or, saving the 'other stuff' to another session, are appropriate ways of dealing with boundary issues.
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Maintaining openness with the 'client' is important. This may mean checking with them that they are comfortable in dealing with the issues raised, especially if they are across a boundary from the originally discussed session/s focus.

Personality Types

We find it helpful when offering Mentoring to know your Personality Type. We may ask you to share your Myers-Briggs and/or Enneagram type with us and refer back to these during sessions to inform our conversation. If you have not discovered your personality type, you can do so using the FREE Tests offered via the links on this web page.
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Myers-Briggs Personality Type Indicator
This free test is based on Carl Jung’s and Isabel Briggs Myers’ typological approach to personality. Upon completion of the questionnaire, you will:
  • Obtain your 4-letter type formula according to Carl Jung’s and Isabel Briggs Myers’ typology, along with the strengths of preferences and the description of your personality type
  • Discover careers and occupations most suitable for your personality type along with examples of educational institutions where you can get a relevant degree or training
  • See which famous personalities share your type
  • Access free career development resources and learn about premium ones
  • Be able to use the results of this test as an input into assessing your compatibility with your long-term romantic partner.
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Code of Conduct

About Safety 

A central outcome in good support/supervision and ministry in general is that you become more congruent in your approach to life and ministry and certainly safe in your practice of ministry. If not already, you will likely be contemplating membership in a professional body with codes of conduct and ethics.

As an officiating minister in the Wellington Anglican Diocese Terry is responsible to the Bishop and to conform to all diocesan regulations for clergy, including Section D - Ministries of the Ordained and Clergy Personnel Matters. This document (PDF) contains comprehensive requirements of clergy in the Anglican Diocese of Wellington. In particular the section ends with Codes of Ethics and Conduct for clergy.

In addition, as a practising spiritual director Terry subscribes to the ACSD-ANZ Covenant guidelines.

Both documents include procedures to follow if you experience this ministry to be inappropriate or sub-standard in any way.